The comparison should be a source of inspiration, not inferiority. Let me explain the same through some examples:
- You see someone having excellent communication, and you start comparing your communication with his communication level and feel inferior, you immediately start cursing, blaming your atmosphere, parents, and teachers. Another approach could be you think that this person must have worked hard on his communication to attain this level. So why can I not do this?
By seeing someone, you can remind yourself of your potential. But be careful you may have a flair for singing instead of communication. So you need not copy, merely recognize you can excel in life by developing your talent. But, the choice is always yours whether you take the first option or later one.
- You have a friend having good physique and energy level. You compare yourself with him and start thinking you are fragile, have a big tummy and start feeling inferior.
The second approach could be that the friend becomes a source of inspiration; you realize that this person must have been working day in day out to have this physique and energy level. Just think you should thank this person or feel jealous of him.
- You have a colleague doing exceptionally well in his job, gets promotions and appreciations time to time; you compare yourself with him and tell yourself he gets a better salary than I get, he is smarter than I am and he can grow faster in his career than I can and so on. This way you are barely sabotaging your confidence level.
In this case, the best approach is to analyze what is so unique about this colleague and ponder:
If you analyze sincerely, you will find that you have some lack or carelessness in your work or attitude. Once you understand deficiency, you will surely work towards that.
Comparison as a source of inspiration - Action points: